Is it necessary to have an orgasm to enjoy sex?
There are lots of ways to enjoy sex without having an orgasm. However, not being able to reach an orgasm at all can be a problem for some people and their partners. If you find having an orgasm difficult and you’re worried about it, talk to your GP.
Some people find it difficult to reach an orgasm through intercourse alone, but can easily climax through masturbation. Some people find it difficult to orgasm at all.
Difficulty having an orgasm can be caused by a number of things, such as worries or lack of knowledge about sex, being unable to relax, not being stimulated enough, relationship problems, feeling depressed or a previous traumatic sexual experience.
If you’re concerned about not having orgasms, your GP can help you find out if there’s a physical reason. If the cause isn’t physical, they may refer you to a sex therapist. Sex therapy involves exploring your feelings about yourself, sex and your relationship, and can help you overcome sexual problems.
Intimacy, love and feeling aroused and sensual can be just as pleasurable as having an orgasm. For some people, these things are more satisfying than always having an orgasm.
Enjoy all the feelings of arousal you share with your partner, not just the orgasm. Take time to be more sensual – for example, by:
Many people give each other oral sex or masturbate together as a healthy and enjoyable part of their sex life.
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